A question that I often receive is, "How long does it take to….?"
Time. It takes time! 90% of success is showing up. For the most part the main thing you have to do is show up...again and again. Month after month...year after year.
Put yourself in an environment with others that are doing/have done the thing that you want to learn...with people that are better at it than you...and you'll get it. If you're showing up consistently, long term, earnestly working hard, asking questions, paying attention to instruction and demonstration, and applying details...you'll develop a strong and long lasting practice.
It won't happen in two weeks, or two months...you have to be patient and commit yourself...the years know things that the days and weeks will never know.
All of this patience, persistencnsistency, commitment and hard work is where the growth and transformation happens, not so much in the attainment of a/the goal. Become the person who doesn't quit and then by example, and with humility, is now the one who models for others what it takes.
At first it’s nothing. So say at first, you have no discipline. And you are told you need to be disciplined in a certain area to achieve a certain aim. But you are not a disciplined person so to speak…you have none. Like I said, at first it’s nothing. It means nothing. Hollow words.
Then comes a thought like, “I want to be a serious writer…I want to write books.” The thought is great but action then needs to be taken. Go to the desk, sit down and write. Now again…that’s nothing…that is not discipline.
The next day comes…go to the desk, sit down and write. Still it’s not much…you’re not a writer…you’re not disciplined. Do it again the next day. Do it again on the day that you’d rather do anything but write. Keep doing it day after day, even when some days you write absolute shit.
Keep doing. Keep going. Six days a week at 4:00pm you go to your desk, sit down and write. After some weeks, you’ve become consistent and most days you look forward to it, but it’s the days you don’t feel like writing that are most important to see it through…just write something…anything!
Now something has changed…when friends call and want to go out at 4:00pm, you say, “No, I’m busy at that time, maybe later?”
Months have gone by, they turn into years, you’ve written hundreds to thousands of pages. You are now a writer. You now have discipline. You are disciplined. You have experienced what it takes…how it works, and now you can do it again and again in any area of your life.
Discipline is not something that you start with…not a gift that some have and some don’t…it’s something we create and built by our choices made. Discipline is a patient and persistent process, like strengthening a muscle by lifting weight. It is also developing the strength of saying no to the things we like, so that we can focus intently on what we love.